Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Dealing with Negative People


In our daily lives, it is inevitable that we will meet with people who are just so negative about life that negativity just oozes from them like nobody's business.

Negativity can be in many forms. It can be that the person:
  • has a Negative outlook of life; 
  • likes to sabotage others;
  • is an energy sucker;
  • likes to talk negative; 
  • ... and the list goes on
Whatever it is, sometimes we just cannot avoid contact with such people. More so if they are part of family or worse... they are your spouse!

For people who are acquaintances or friends, it is relatively easy. All you need to do is distant yourself from them. If contact becomes inevitable, just ignore their negativity and focus on positive. By ignoring and not participating in their "pity parties", you are essentially indirectly in a polite way showing them that they will not get the attention craving from you. They will very quickly turn their attention elsewhere or change the subject. It works.

However, family is more difficult. You see them quite often and sometimes they live with you. If you have a problem with a member of your family who is negative, begin by writing a list of all the things you appreciate about that person. Remember to include gratitude to them for giving you a great desire for positivity in your life; because that is a gift they are giving you. When we focus on the positive aspect of them, we draw that back from them. That part in them will rise up to meet you. And please don't tell me that you can't find anything positive about that person. Everyone has both a positive and negative aspect to them. That's the nature of being human. A negative oriented person is merely someone who has put over attention onto the negative. If you look at them carefully, you will notice the positive parts of them... and that is where you place your focus on.

As you focus with all of your strength on appreciation of others, you will not only reduce your exposure to the negativity, but at the same time you will be attracting positive people into your life.

Get yourself on to the appreciation frequency, and the law of attraction can surround you only with people who are in a positive state.